It’s peculiar that people who use the internet more frequently also have more affairs. Being cheated on by your partner is a sad thing, but before blaming others and instead of being suspicious all the time, it is always better to get deeper into the real reasons for cheating and try to avoid them.

Who cheats in a relationship?

Who cheats in a relationship?

There are plenty of studies about this topic, but the main thing to note is that women are just as likely to cheat as men are.

Alicia Walker spoke to more than 50 women who were between the ages of 24 and 54 and revealed in her book The Secret Lives of Cheating Wives that women in their early 40s were most likely to cheat. But nobody wants to leave their marriage! They’re just looking for a new experience.

Women are becoming equal to men but their reasons for cheating may be different. Most often, men are driven by desire while women are seeking out an emotional connection.

Reasons why people cheat in a relationship and how to avoid them:

Reasons why people cheat in a relationship and how to avoid them: © shutterstock.com © shutterstock.com

1. Lack of passion in a relationship

1. Lack of passion in a relationship

This was the most common reason noted by individuals in one of the studies. You can have emotional harmony with your partner but if there’s always been a lack of passion, it may end with cheating.

How to avoid it:

  1. Talk to your partner, be open about your needs, and try not to deny the needs of your partner right off the bat.
  2. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
  3. You can try sessions together with a psychologist if you don’t know how to start discussing this problem yourself.

2. Lack of emotional satisfaction

2. Lack of emotional satisfaction

This can be very dangerous because if you don’t feel emotional intimacy, you may get depressed and start searching for another source of happiness. Less connection leads to more chances for cheating.

How to avoid it:

  1. Work together to create something meaningful.
  2. Be responsible for your actions. If you make a mistake, don’t just leave it as it is. Unsolved problems create more problems.
  3. Balance your work and personal life.
  4. Your partner also has a right to their own opinion. Instead of fighting it’s better to find a compromise.

3. Your partner just fell out of love with you or fell in love with someone else.

3. Your partner just fell out of love with you or fell in love with someone else.

Yes, this is very painful! But love is a tricky thing. You might be drinking coffee in a coffee shop and boom! You see a person and you feel like your heart stops. We can’t explain this, but sometimes chemistry, destiny, or karma are the triggers. So it’s very possible that a person could just fall out of love too.

How to avoid it:

  1. Every relationship has challenges. No one is perfect and you need to accept that as a fact.
  2. Keep being romantic with your partner. It’s also work to be in a relationship, but it is enjoyable work that will develop you as a person.
  3. Take action. It is nice to say or hear, "I love you’’, but you still need to prove it.
  4. Respect the independence of your partner and yourself.
  5. Don’t try to force things.

4. Anger is a trigger for cheating.

4. Anger is a trigger for cheating.

You suspect or know your partner hurt you or betrayed you. Let’s get even! You want revenge!

How to avoid it:

1. Focus on managing yourself, but not your partner. You can’t be responsible for the actions of other people, but you can be responsible for your actions and emotions. Being calm is much more effective. Surround yourself with friends who can keep your mood up.

2. Share your feelings instead of placing blame on someone else.

3. Analyze the situation and try to find the best solution instead of slamming doors. Your partner will most likely regret their actions when they see you as a reasonable and calm person.

5. A curiosity for new experiences

5. A curiosity for new experiences

The internet. Tinder. The gym. You can face temptation anywhere and sometimes might feel curiousabout whether you could achieve a new goal and win someone’s heart. It’s like a contest where, instead of playing tennis, you flirt with someone to see if you’ve still “got it.” You may really love your partner, but might be craving a challenge.

How to avoid it:

  1. Executive control of yourself can help you to avoid the impulses that everyone feels. But you can’t control your partner.
  2. Pay attention to how a person behaves in the beginning of your relationship. If they pay too much attention to other people all the time, this should be a sign for you. Maybe your future partner is not ready for something serious.

6. An inability to commit

6. An inability to commit

For some, a relationship doesn’t mean having just one partner. Some people are just more open-minded.

How to avoid it:

If you prefer a traditional relationship, discuss it with your partner and don’t be scared to be yourself. It’s better to avoid an unhealthy relationship in the beginning, than to have a broken heart and a bad experience later.

7. The relationship needs spicing up

7. The relationship needs spicing up

Add some fire in your relationship! Risk adds more drama. And in a quest for drama, or out of boredom, you might start searching for something new, that you can’t get at home.

How to avoid it:

Don’t be in a rush to make any decisions before talking honestly with your partner and sharing your wants, needs, and the things you’re fantasizing about. All relationships have their ups and downs. Spicing up the relationship can involve a variety of activities that you can do with your partner.

Do you have your own ideas for how to keep your relationship loyal and healthy? Please share your ideas with us!


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Source: Brightside.me

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